On June 26, 1925 two boys were born to Harley and Sarah Gross in Jacksboro, Tennessee. I wasn’t there, but I’d imagine there was quite a bit of relief and a little trepidation surrounding their birth, since twin boys born just a year prior had not survived infancy. Numbers five and six of eight children, my grandfather’s family grew up in the tough days of the Great Depression, and life wasn’t always easy for them.
During a local crusade, twins Clifford and Clyde came to faith in Jesus on the same night. Over the next few years, my grandfather worked in various jobs while wrestling with a calling on his life to vocational ministry. Not that he was counting or anything, but in chronicling this season he noted that he worked on a dairy farm for two years, four months and three days. (He may have been counting down, but lots of children, including his great-grands, are pretty thankful for these days….since they gave us the best cow-mooing impression you’ve ever heard.) He joined the army and completed 7 jumps with the airborne division. Towards the end of World War II, he served with the military police in Italy. One of the prisoners he was charged with transporting sketched a drawing of him that remains a treasure in our family to this day – it says something special about the character of a man when prisoners in his care connect with him in a special way. Given the choice to re-enlist, he declined and came back home to work in construction, at a gas station, a grocery store and even in the coal mines that shaped the communities around him.
Along the way, a still, steady calling to ministry continued to weigh on his heart. Two months after he told the Lord “no” to a calling to missions, he surrendered to the life’s work that would shape the rest of his life. On January 15, 1954 he traveled to Cuba to begin his ministry there with WorldTeam. There, he married Reathel Mae Combs on April 7 and the rest, as they say, is history.
For the next fifty-four years, they served faithfully alongside each other. We often joke in our family that WorldTeam instituted a mandatory retirement age due in large part to the fact that my grandparents were still working on the field past their 80th birthdays. Of course, most of us dream of retiring to the Caribbean. Why would we have expected them to retire from it?
During those early years, my grandfather describes many times when the Lord faithfully met needs in very practical ways. For example – $150 arrived by mail just as Grandpa believed he couldn’t travel home when his father was very ill. Short of money to return to Cuba after his father died, he spoke at a church and received $67 – enough money to help him make his return flight. Again and again, God provided as my grandparents served Him and His people throughout their lives.
After what my grandfather described as a “personality conflict” with Fidel Castro following the Cuban Revolution, they left Cuba and came home for a brief period of respite. While recently reading through some of his notes, I learned that he really wrestled with returning to the field during that time. After a rather tumultuous ending to their time in Cuba, there were lots of questions about what the best pathway forward might be for this family with young children. In the end, Grandpa wrote two letters – one agreeing to return to the field – this time in Trinidad – and another rejecting the offer. With only one stamp, a decision had to be made. Trusting in the sincerity of their calling, they mailed the first letter and headed to Trinidad. From that moment on, there was great peace in their calling.
Island life may have been beautiful in many ways, but it wasn’t without hardship. A fishing accident in cost Grandpa his right eye, and Aunt Suzie required an emergency flight out of Tobago after a dislocated elbow became infected. My grandparents lived apart from their children for several years in order to make sure that they received an education. Hurricanes threatened safety (and apparently stole a favorite pair of shoes), social movements threatened the security of Americans, and work permits, visa issues and US military operations changed the course of plans & the countries called home.
The interesting thing to me is that I only learned many of those stories over the past few months. During the entirety of their ministry, the story was never about the obstacles that threatened security or the moments when most of us would have thrown it in and come home. Instead, the life’s message my grandfather preached was of God’s faithfulness and love. For those 54 years, my grandparents served each person they encountered with the grace and peace of the Gospel. Through print shops, radio broadcasts, marriage seminars and ministry to local churches and training for pastors across the West Indies, they served with a quiet strength and solid understanding of the promises of scripture. They lived these promises out in their own lives, inspiring others to do the same by their example as much as their words.
Upon retirement, they continued to serve here in the community each of their four children call home. At 93, the greatest lesson my grandfather taught me is that there is a plan and calling on our lives for all of the days the Lord graciously gives.
When Grandpa was moved into the Hospice House nearly two weeks ago, he was just down the road from my office. I stopped by early each morning on my way to work to spend a few minutes with him before the rush of the day began. Four days before he passed away, I sat by his bed while he slept and accidentally coughed, which startled him awake. I quickly apologized for waking him, knowing that sleep was his best escape from pain at that point. He told me never to apologize for waking him up, and it quickly became apparent that he was the most lucid I had seen him in quite some time. I told him I loved him, and then he looked right at me and told me he loved me. I told him we were praying for him, and he replied that he was praying for God to reveal Himself to our family every day, and that he was praying most of all for Maddie and Hudson to love Jesus all of their lives. He quickly went back to sleep, and those were the last words we exchanged.
The whole conversation lasted less than two minutes, but it will forever be etched in my mind. Even as he moved from this earthly life into life eternal, Clifford Gross knew that the God who called him to Himself all those years ago continues to reveal Himself today. He knew that the faithfulness of His Savior was not just a memory but a promise for his family in the days and months to come. He knew what mattered most, even as his body faded away.
We are surely going to miss him – all the corny jokes, bad directions and reliving the past with him. But we grieve with hope, knowing that our loss is his great gain.
Speaking of his friend John McCain last week, Joe Biden said it this way: “You know you’re going to make it when the image of your dad, your husband, your friend crosses your mind and a smile comes to your lip before a tear to your eye.” And the smile does come first, because there’s so much joy in knowing that the love we’ve been given is a treasure of heavenly proportion. If you’re here today, we know that love has touched you in some way, and so your presence here means more than you might know. It is the legacy my grandfather leaves behind even as he is healed and whole in Heaven. It is the legacy we will live out, knowing that the God who was faithful to Clifford and his family all of these years will be faithful in all of the days to come.